I'm having a convo on SBFB and I just had a thought..."Why am I not just a hustler's girlfriend?" I mean pretty much same shit right? I don't know...I mean...I don't really like black men who are in the sugar bowl...because they are cheap as hell. At least in my experience most are, or they are looking for something "exotic" lmfao....
But hustlers....there's something about a bad boy that just makes me want to, well you know... Do the Bankhead Bounce while riding him. (for the record I just fell over laughing about that!) I mean here are my pros and cons about them:
Pros:
-Generous as they want you to look good because in turn they'll look good.
-Usually GREAT in bed!
...That's about it hahaha
Cons:
-Not many long-term goals.
-Not truly successful...a here-today/gone-tomorrow type.
-Indifferent to education...
-Cost-Benefit Analysis
-It's not worth it at all to be involved with a high-risk situation.
-Not too smart
-Normally ratchet.
-Normally have side-chicks (and in RL I'm jealous if I'm your gf).
- Nouveau Riche and flashy (I am discreet and lowkey)
So I guess that's why I won't go with a hustler...although it's tempting. But I remember how lost my brother's old girlfriends were when he would get locked up...and I don't have time to post bail and all that shit...lmao
But damn the though was tempting.
In other news...
I'm staging my takeover lol. I mean, I'm just prepping myself for freestyling and immersing myself into sugar, because #1 it's summer, #2 I look good as hell, and #3 I think it is a shame to be a broke ass college student.
Do you guys have sugar inspirations? Like for me I LOVE Marlo from RHOA and Lisa-Raye's character on Single Ladies and I'm just curious about everyone else's.
Friday, May 25, 2012
Sunday, May 20, 2012
SDs vs. "Johns" and SBs vs. Escorts
Ok so...posting CL ads are all the rage these days and I myself have joined in on the fun! So I'm currently relocated and am trying to understand the "Sugar scene" in my new surroundings and I posted a few CL ads....The first, it stayed up for about 24 hours and received A TON of emails. Among one of those were from a guy who simply asked "What are your needs." I like clear, succinct people but I put him to the side because he didn't say much about himself. Long story short: He's 35-39 range and works as a franchise owner of Papa Johns and owns 8 stores in NYC. Cool...I think that brings in a good amount of $$$. We decided to start with an allowance of 2500 and it would increase to my goal of 3-6k. Cool, cool. The more I got to know about him, the more I liked him. He was humble, super nice...blah, blah. So I ask him when we would be starting the arrangement and he said when I get there, cool. But I don't like his neighborhood and asked if we could meet in the "city" and he was like "Why? All the behind closed doors action happens here"
Whoa!
I proceeded to explain to him that an arrangement is not purely based off of sex. But instead, companionship. He says "Well I have needs. And when we start having sex then the arrangement begins"
Whoa x2!
Now...I'm a pretty sweet girl, but I'm also from South Philly and I don't play that dumb shit. Also, I know what my elder SBs told me about arrangements, and this is NOT IT. So I let him know that his previous "arrangements" were with nothing more than some cheap ass escorts and he was nothing more than a "John" and that he would actually be paying for my companionship because someone like him (no offense) would never get someone like me to even look twice at him without some financial compensation being received. Lets be honest here.
Now I must say this, but there are a lot of new girls attempting to enter into the Sugar (world, bowl, insert witty name) And this is lovely, HOWEVER...with a lot of the media coverage this lifestyle receives it is fucking shit up for the rest of us! Now, I researched this world for MONTHS before I even started this blog just to make sure I wanted this and that this would be the right course for my life. I read NUMEROUS blogs and even bought some of the eBooks from experienced and successful SBs. Unfortunately, I feel as though the number of true sugar babies is varying inversely as these cheap, ass college escorts are coming in and throwing SALT IN THE SUGAR BOWL! Wtf is that?!
For example, I had a friend who entered the sugar bowl a few months after I did and she pretty much became a college escort but titled herself as a "Sugarbaby". NO BITCH! You are giving hand jobs for Lunchables and Capri Suns! What happened to the days when SBs knew their value? When SBs stuck together? When SDs acted like a gentleman should act, instead of a horny ass douchebag? What happened?
I honestly can't even talk and ask about what happened because I came in truly on the tail end, last October. But even I have noticed a difference in the quality of men and even the quality of the girls. If you are selling your cookies to the highest bidder then you might as well take your ass to he nearest "Ho-Stroll" and get it poppin off over there! I'm sick of men trying to flash a few dollars in my face thinking that that will make me just go and do a split on the dick. No. No. And HELL NO.
Also on SBFB all the Sugars that I looked up to and would look forward to seeing on my newsfeed have disappeared and in replacement some questionable ass hoes have reappeared. I don't like that. I try to be nice but I'm not here for weirdos, fakes, and snakes. In the past 2 weeks I've received like 10 requests....now I understand that I was once those girls (if they are girls) and I needed friends but sheesh! I am extremely selective about who gets into "Kara's World"
But that's all for now!
Good night
xoxoxo
Whoa!
I proceeded to explain to him that an arrangement is not purely based off of sex. But instead, companionship. He says "Well I have needs. And when we start having sex then the arrangement begins"
Whoa x2!
Now...I'm a pretty sweet girl, but I'm also from South Philly and I don't play that dumb shit. Also, I know what my elder SBs told me about arrangements, and this is NOT IT. So I let him know that his previous "arrangements" were with nothing more than some cheap ass escorts and he was nothing more than a "John" and that he would actually be paying for my companionship because someone like him (no offense) would never get someone like me to even look twice at him without some financial compensation being received. Lets be honest here.
Now I must say this, but there are a lot of new girls attempting to enter into the Sugar (world, bowl, insert witty name) And this is lovely, HOWEVER...with a lot of the media coverage this lifestyle receives it is fucking shit up for the rest of us! Now, I researched this world for MONTHS before I even started this blog just to make sure I wanted this and that this would be the right course for my life. I read NUMEROUS blogs and even bought some of the eBooks from experienced and successful SBs. Unfortunately, I feel as though the number of true sugar babies is varying inversely as these cheap, ass college escorts are coming in and throwing SALT IN THE SUGAR BOWL! Wtf is that?!
For example, I had a friend who entered the sugar bowl a few months after I did and she pretty much became a college escort but titled herself as a "Sugarbaby". NO BITCH! You are giving hand jobs for Lunchables and Capri Suns! What happened to the days when SBs knew their value? When SBs stuck together? When SDs acted like a gentleman should act, instead of a horny ass douchebag? What happened?
I honestly can't even talk and ask about what happened because I came in truly on the tail end, last October. But even I have noticed a difference in the quality of men and even the quality of the girls. If you are selling your cookies to the highest bidder then you might as well take your ass to he nearest "Ho-Stroll" and get it poppin off over there! I'm sick of men trying to flash a few dollars in my face thinking that that will make me just go and do a split on the dick. No. No. And HELL NO.
Also on SBFB all the Sugars that I looked up to and would look forward to seeing on my newsfeed have disappeared and in replacement some questionable ass hoes have reappeared. I don't like that. I try to be nice but I'm not here for weirdos, fakes, and snakes. In the past 2 weeks I've received like 10 requests....now I understand that I was once those girls (if they are girls) and I needed friends but sheesh! I am extremely selective about who gets into "Kara's World"
But that's all for now!
Good night
xoxoxo
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Ruminating...
So lately I've been thinking about the life of an SB and all that it entails. Like I understand that choosing a lifestyle like this is a choice that should be weighed heavily because it requires a lot of time and patience and being able to separate these two aspects of your life. In some aspects I feel as though I am doing myself a disservice by not being a regular college-student, a regular 19 year-old, because I am not allowing myself the chance to truly experience being "broke" and in college and having to get creative with meals and such, and also the prudent spending of money. But then I feel as though because I have such high expectations for my life and such pronounced goals that in some ways I need to have a mentor/benefactor/sugar daddy who will help to make my goals a reality.
"To attain something you've never had you need to do something you've never done"
That quote sticks out in my head and I always think about how hard I've worked thus far and the hard work I am going to have to put in in the future that will allow for me to achieve my goals. I'm not saying that having a SD will be an easy way to success because there is no easy way, but instead having one will help to actually materialize and make my goals truly attainable. I can't fail and I won't fail, and so many people don't understand what I mean when I say that...but if you are from the "hood" then you know what that means. I don't want the life my mother had, and I'm not saying that in a degrading way but instead in a "I want to be better" sort of way. Like I don't want to struggle as much as she did and I also don't want to find my "purpose" at a late age...But I understand that that is out of my hands. However, somehow I feel as though it is my responsibility to take care of my family and to be honest, that is where my money from SDs go. Like when I was with the "Mandarin-Oriental" man my allowance went into getting my bf a birthday present, saving for my brother's impending prison release, and making sure I had money so I wouldn't have to ask my mother for anything. At one point my mom needed money so I sent her what she needed. I don't feel as though a child should have to worry about money, but instead on her grades and retaining her innocence for as long as possible. Although, it appears that my reality differs what I believe should happen. But being a broke college student means that I can't buy my mother something extremely nice for mother's day and I hate that. I guess since my brother has been in jail I have been trying to take on the role of care-taker, especially trying to take care of my mom and my nephew. Like I guess I'm doing this because I just don't want to stress my mother will my problems which appear minuscule in comparison to hers. She has student loans, car payments, cell-phone payments, and health expenses while also paying what she can for my schooling. I just want to be independent so that my mother can focus on herself and not have to worry about me. But at the same time I don't want to do anything that will not make her proud. Although, I don't regret any decisions I have made so anyone else's opinions have no purpose.
But I'm not sure...I'm taking my finals right now so I guess I can do more introspection when I have more time...but I hope all the other College SBs good luck with all of their finals!!
xoxo
"To attain something you've never had you need to do something you've never done"
That quote sticks out in my head and I always think about how hard I've worked thus far and the hard work I am going to have to put in in the future that will allow for me to achieve my goals. I'm not saying that having a SD will be an easy way to success because there is no easy way, but instead having one will help to actually materialize and make my goals truly attainable. I can't fail and I won't fail, and so many people don't understand what I mean when I say that...but if you are from the "hood" then you know what that means. I don't want the life my mother had, and I'm not saying that in a degrading way but instead in a "I want to be better" sort of way. Like I don't want to struggle as much as she did and I also don't want to find my "purpose" at a late age...But I understand that that is out of my hands. However, somehow I feel as though it is my responsibility to take care of my family and to be honest, that is where my money from SDs go. Like when I was with the "Mandarin-Oriental" man my allowance went into getting my bf a birthday present, saving for my brother's impending prison release, and making sure I had money so I wouldn't have to ask my mother for anything. At one point my mom needed money so I sent her what she needed. I don't feel as though a child should have to worry about money, but instead on her grades and retaining her innocence for as long as possible. Although, it appears that my reality differs what I believe should happen. But being a broke college student means that I can't buy my mother something extremely nice for mother's day and I hate that. I guess since my brother has been in jail I have been trying to take on the role of care-taker, especially trying to take care of my mom and my nephew. Like I guess I'm doing this because I just don't want to stress my mother will my problems which appear minuscule in comparison to hers. She has student loans, car payments, cell-phone payments, and health expenses while also paying what she can for my schooling. I just want to be independent so that my mother can focus on herself and not have to worry about me. But at the same time I don't want to do anything that will not make her proud. Although, I don't regret any decisions I have made so anyone else's opinions have no purpose.
But I'm not sure...I'm taking my finals right now so I guess I can do more introspection when I have more time...but I hope all the other College SBs good luck with all of their finals!!
xoxo
Friday, April 20, 2012
I'm back!
Ok so I tried to take a hiatus from sugar and it's not working. I'm itching to just start everything all over again and start anew. And "Foe the Love of $" is stuck in my head right now lol So...I'm back and yeah... lol
I'll keep you guys updated but I will be updating my SA, SD, and AM accounts. K, cool.
;)
I'll keep you guys updated but I will be updating my SA, SD, and AM accounts. K, cool.
;)
Friday, April 13, 2012
Mandarin Oriental Aftermath
Hi all!
So...I never gave the aftermath of my little Mandarin Oriental excursion...
Lol! It seems like it will be uber dramatic....
So...the day when we were leaving he springs it on me that although he "does well" he is not able to afford my 2.5k/month allowance....I mean Idk...I was annoyed because I would have rather known that sooner than later but whatever. But any who...I figured since I would be getting gifts (I was supposed to be getting an iPhone 4S on our next meeting) that it would be okay. So he gave me my 1300 and I then took a shower and got ready to go back to school.
Later that week...
I receive a text from him stating that he needed to talk to me and it was extremely urgent. So I call him like...ugh this man is the ultimate drama queen! So he tells me that he thought about it and his religion coupled with the fact that he really loves his wife is going to prevent him from moving forward with this because he had never done anything like that before and it was hard for him and blah, blah, blah...I was like yeah whatever...I'm calling bullshit on this one! Men are fickle. YOU wrote to ME. YOU made plans with ME. YOU wanted ME.
I don't have time. Lol
*Btw, I finally remembered the dessert I had at Cityzen...it was pineapple upside-down cake!*
Insider Edition
As of right now I am taking a small little sugar break, i.e SBFB. It seems as though there is a lot of drama and I don't have time...People were up in arms about the whole verification thing and I understood and I told them that they could kiss my ass if they didn't think I was real. Then I stepped back and thought "Well shit...there are probably a bunch of looney ass bitches trying to emulate something and it would be nice to absolutely know the real from the fake" So then I apologized to the person who brought up the idea because I realized that I was being a little asshole. But still...there are a few people on SBFB who I feel like calling shenanigans on. But whatever....
I have to get my personal/real life together before I attempt to add to it. I'm currently facing a cold that has been consistently getting worse over the week -___- Then when I went to my Student Health Center the bitch said to come back on Monday because there was one nurse...I just need a note for my teacher so that I can handle my business for class. UGH.
So...I never gave the aftermath of my little Mandarin Oriental excursion...
So...the day when we were leaving he springs it on me that although he "does well" he is not able to afford my 2.5k/month allowance....I mean Idk...I was annoyed because I would have rather known that sooner than later but whatever. But any who...I figured since I would be getting gifts (I was supposed to be getting an iPhone 4S on our next meeting) that it would be okay. So he gave me my 1300 and I then took a shower and got ready to go back to school.
Later that week...
I receive a text from him stating that he needed to talk to me and it was extremely urgent. So I call him like...ugh this man is the ultimate drama queen! So he tells me that he thought about it and his religion coupled with the fact that he really loves his wife is going to prevent him from moving forward with this because he had never done anything like that before and it was hard for him and blah, blah, blah...I was like yeah whatever...I'm calling bullshit on this one! Men are fickle. YOU wrote to ME. YOU made plans with ME. YOU wanted ME.
I don't have time. Lol
*Btw, I finally remembered the dessert I had at Cityzen...it was pineapple upside-down cake!*
Insider Edition
As of right now I am taking a small little sugar break, i.e SBFB. It seems as though there is a lot of drama and I don't have time...People were up in arms about the whole verification thing and I understood and I told them that they could kiss my ass if they didn't think I was real. Then I stepped back and thought "Well shit...there are probably a bunch of looney ass bitches trying to emulate something and it would be nice to absolutely know the real from the fake" So then I apologized to the person who brought up the idea because I realized that I was being a little asshole. But still...there are a few people on SBFB who I feel like calling shenanigans on. But whatever....
I have to get my personal/real life together before I attempt to add to it. I'm currently facing a cold that has been consistently getting worse over the week -___- Then when I went to my Student Health Center the bitch said to come back on Monday because there was one nurse...I just need a note for my teacher so that I can handle my business for class. UGH.
Friday, April 6, 2012
Updates...Mandarin Oriental
Hey all!
I didn't realize that it had been so long...I've been on SBFB so you can catch me on there :)
But I have some updates :)
About 2 weeks ago I had my first overnight with a POT at the Mandarin Oriental in DC. It was very nice. I mean he was above my age limit but I made an exception ;) We had dinner at CityZen and that was also very nice. We ordered off of the 4-course tasting menu and I had (I'm going to rate them lol):
-Scallops : 4/5
-Rockfish 2.5/5
-Lamb 5/5
and I forgot the dessert but I remember it being mediocre. But anyways, dinner was nice but I knew I had to get down to business once we got back upstairs to the room. At dinner we talked about a variety of things, including our shared love of music and photography and he told me that possibly a Canon D3000 could be on the horizon for me. He also told me about his family (because he is married) and his practice (he is a chiropractor). It was flowing pretty well, but I mean I'm pretty awkward so sometimes I just went blank lol He's Italian and I LOVE Italian men!! But once again...he's pretty old, fat, and short. I'm short damn self so I don't need anyone my height lol.
But we got up to the room and took a bubble bath together...let's just say that he is a Freak! He even went out to the store and purchased a vibrator, some lube, and some massage oils. I mean...sheesh! But yeah...the size was SUPER small AND he had to use Cialis which worked for about 15 minutes....not going to lie but I expected something different because before the overnight he was talking shit about how he would "rock my world" and I just thought he was going to ROCK MY WORLD...I rocked his. LOL. I mean I don't think an old Italian guy who was married for about 27 years is ready for a Black-Caribbean girl when it comes to "in between the sheets." Like Dance For You by Beyonce was stuck in my head. I'm not even gonna lie though, it's fun to be in control and to see someone's eyes roll back as you are grinding on them. I just love sex to be honest...But any who...
I got an iPad...he just gave it to me "to keep me entertained" as we waited for room service. We did it a few more times, listened to music, and fell asleep. The next morning we did it some more lol then I took a shower and he gave me a nice amount of money :D
This post is long as shit...and I'm super hungry so I'll do another telling of the aftermath and finishing this story.
(met him on AM btw)
I didn't realize that it had been so long...I've been on SBFB so you can catch me on there :)
But I have some updates :)
About 2 weeks ago I had my first overnight with a POT at the Mandarin Oriental in DC. It was very nice. I mean he was above my age limit but I made an exception ;) We had dinner at CityZen and that was also very nice. We ordered off of the 4-course tasting menu and I had (I'm going to rate them lol):
-Scallops : 4/5
-Rockfish 2.5/5
-Lamb 5/5
and I forgot the dessert but I remember it being mediocre. But anyways, dinner was nice but I knew I had to get down to business once we got back upstairs to the room. At dinner we talked about a variety of things, including our shared love of music and photography and he told me that possibly a Canon D3000 could be on the horizon for me. He also told me about his family (because he is married) and his practice (he is a chiropractor). It was flowing pretty well, but I mean I'm pretty awkward so sometimes I just went blank lol He's Italian and I LOVE Italian men!! But once again...he's pretty old, fat, and short. I'm short damn self so I don't need anyone my height lol.
But we got up to the room and took a bubble bath together...let's just say that he is a Freak! He even went out to the store and purchased a vibrator, some lube, and some massage oils. I mean...sheesh! But yeah...the size was SUPER small AND he had to use Cialis which worked for about 15 minutes....not going to lie but I expected something different because before the overnight he was talking shit about how he would "rock my world" and I just thought he was going to ROCK MY WORLD...I rocked his. LOL. I mean I don't think an old Italian guy who was married for about 27 years is ready for a Black-Caribbean girl when it comes to "in between the sheets." Like Dance For You by Beyonce was stuck in my head. I'm not even gonna lie though, it's fun to be in control and to see someone's eyes roll back as you are grinding on them. I just love sex to be honest...But any who...
I got an iPad...he just gave it to me "to keep me entertained" as we waited for room service. We did it a few more times, listened to music, and fell asleep. The next morning we did it some more lol then I took a shower and he gave me a nice amount of money :D
This post is long as shit...and I'm super hungry so I'll do another telling of the aftermath and finishing this story.
(met him on AM btw)
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Refreshed!
Hey guys! I would say it's been a long time since I've last written but I don't even know...lol but any who...I feel SO refreshed! I haven't gone to a spa or anything but I feel so content i my life and I'm not stressed about bullshit that I can't really solve right now in my life...The ultimate Zen experience! I just became a member of the "Sugar" Facebook community and it is really great to be honest. I really want some Sugar friends to talk to because the people in my life that do know about this "alternate lifestyle" just giggle when I tell them because they know I do lots of crazy shit. I've joined SD.com and paid that annoying ass fee -___- but I have met a few people on there, not gonna jinx anything but it's a great site....I honestly like it much better than SA.com because SA has become a waste of time to me in all honesty. But I also have been using WhatsYourPrice.com and that site is pretty cool...Someone tried to offer me $50...umm excuse me? Please....But honestly at this current point all sugar I receive is going to my college application fees because I am transferring and that shit is uber expensive! Like it's nuts and I set money aside but I forgot about arbitrary ass fees so whatever...I'm just very refreshed because I know that everything will be a-okay :) That feeling is lovely...I will keep you all updated!
P.S Friend me on FB! I want sugar friends!!!
P.S Friend me on FB! I want sugar friends!!!
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Umm...
So I've been talking to the POT on SD.com and he seemed nice enough...until he asked if he could touch my forehead and prayed for me daily...That's very weird to me. Like I understand being a person of faith because I am a Christian...BUT that is sooo weird to me.
Like there is so much wrong with this..I just can't lol
I cannot take this man seriously...ugh -____-
Like there is so much wrong with this..I just can't lol
I cannot take this man seriously...ugh -____-
Thursday, January 5, 2012
A Little Background
Hey guys! I know I just wrote yesterday but I am doing a little angry blogging because a VERY recent run-in with my mother just drove me even further away. Well here goes...a little background on why I am becoming a sugar and why I want this lifestyle...
When I was 12 my mother took me away from everything I knew from the east coast to live in Seattle while she pursued a law degree. I had just been granted a full scholarship to a wonderful private school and unfortunately my father did not want anything to do with my education nor with bettering it so he refused to allow me to stay at his home. While I was in Seattle my mother and I lived in a one bedroom apartment and we would trade-off on who slept in the bed. We moved to one apartment to another and as time went on we were poorer and poorer. Now my mother, being as head-strong and stubborn as she was though that food stamps and welfare were beneath her so we didn't use them. Instead, we received child support, albeit late, from my father and buffer money from my then-drug dealer brother. During the time we lived in Seattle I had a fling with a 22 year old man while I was 14. It revolved around stints in his back-seat, front-seat, and on park tables performing fellatio on him. I received nothing out of it, but when I decided to go to boarding school because I couldn't bear another month, let alone year, in that city I ended things. To say the least, I earned skills but nothing else except a broken heart and bruised ego and much emotional damage that it took a few years to reverse and heal.
However we moved to Chicago the summer I before I turned 16 and things were peachy enough. Until I met another 22 year old. Except this one in particular actually liked me, and as naive as he was tried to make me his "girlfriend" or better yet trophy. It didn't work .This past summer (3 years after we moved to Chicago) I moved to Connecticut. My mother previously worked for the City of Chicago and made good enough money to keep the bills paid and take us both shopping with a little extra for incidentals, lost her job prompting her to take a job for a non-profit as a residential director for a home full of high school girls. We are now broke. We no longer have health insurance and I no longer have a room to myself, as I now have to share a bed with my mother and my belongings are scattered across the North-Eastern seaboard between houses of family members. Clearly when my mother accepted this job she did not have her daughter's welfare in mind.
I need my own. My own space to live. My own car to drive. Just yesterday my mother lent out my keyboard to one of the girls in this house...although they have a piano in the living room. I feel out of place here. I can't even afford to wear weaves anymore! What's a girl to do?! I even have a job, but it helps none when put up against student loans. So yeah...that's my story. Hopefully I can find an SD by March.
Ladies, I would love to hear your personal stories about what brought you to the sugar bowl
xoxo
When I was 12 my mother took me away from everything I knew from the east coast to live in Seattle while she pursued a law degree. I had just been granted a full scholarship to a wonderful private school and unfortunately my father did not want anything to do with my education nor with bettering it so he refused to allow me to stay at his home. While I was in Seattle my mother and I lived in a one bedroom apartment and we would trade-off on who slept in the bed. We moved to one apartment to another and as time went on we were poorer and poorer. Now my mother, being as head-strong and stubborn as she was though that food stamps and welfare were beneath her so we didn't use them. Instead, we received child support, albeit late, from my father and buffer money from my then-drug dealer brother. During the time we lived in Seattle I had a fling with a 22 year old man while I was 14. It revolved around stints in his back-seat, front-seat, and on park tables performing fellatio on him. I received nothing out of it, but when I decided to go to boarding school because I couldn't bear another month, let alone year, in that city I ended things. To say the least, I earned skills but nothing else except a broken heart and bruised ego and much emotional damage that it took a few years to reverse and heal.
However we moved to Chicago the summer I before I turned 16 and things were peachy enough. Until I met another 22 year old. Except this one in particular actually liked me, and as naive as he was tried to make me his "girlfriend" or better yet trophy. It didn't work .This past summer (3 years after we moved to Chicago) I moved to Connecticut. My mother previously worked for the City of Chicago and made good enough money to keep the bills paid and take us both shopping with a little extra for incidentals, lost her job prompting her to take a job for a non-profit as a residential director for a home full of high school girls. We are now broke. We no longer have health insurance and I no longer have a room to myself, as I now have to share a bed with my mother and my belongings are scattered across the North-Eastern seaboard between houses of family members. Clearly when my mother accepted this job she did not have her daughter's welfare in mind.
I need my own. My own space to live. My own car to drive. Just yesterday my mother lent out my keyboard to one of the girls in this house...although they have a piano in the living room. I feel out of place here. I can't even afford to wear weaves anymore! What's a girl to do?! I even have a job, but it helps none when put up against student loans. So yeah...that's my story. Hopefully I can find an SD by March.
Ladies, I would love to hear your personal stories about what brought you to the sugar bowl
xoxo
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
New Year, New Search
Hey Ladies!
I felt like it has been forever since I've posted anything, and I'm sick with a stomach bug so I have all the time in the world on my hands. Since it is a new year and I have spent the past month pondering on the things that I deem important I have decided to revamp my sugar search. I know things do not come easy, and thus far they have not for me. I have spoken to a few pots but I guess I have been too picky because they have not piqued my interest---at all. I have/had an older black guy who said on his SA profile that he wanted someone between the ages of 25 and 35 but although I've told him I was 19 he still is pursuing me. He also wants someone with their own apartment---not me again! I went off the radar and didn't check my sugar email for around 2 and a half weeks I received like 3 emails from him bitching about how I didn't email him back! He and I haven't even met and at that rate we won't...so yeah.
I have revamped my profile, I've added more pictures (one of which has my favorite piece of art, that I created of course, in the background) I re-wrote my profile. I even looked at other SB profiles on the site to get a feel for what would be best to include.
There are many changes that I want to make in my life this year, and we all know that nothing in this world is free. In the eyes of many, I'm just a baby at the young age of 19. But I need to procure my own space, my own apartment because the living situation that my mother and I have is completely and utterly unbearable. I also need to "polish" myself up a bit. Meaning that times have fallen hard on my family, and I haven't got enough money to get a new weave, get a new make-up....shit I can barely go shopping! So yeah, I have a tuition to be paid and I need an SD to help. Wish me luck!
I felt like it has been forever since I've posted anything, and I'm sick with a stomach bug so I have all the time in the world on my hands. Since it is a new year and I have spent the past month pondering on the things that I deem important I have decided to revamp my sugar search. I know things do not come easy, and thus far they have not for me. I have spoken to a few pots but I guess I have been too picky because they have not piqued my interest---at all. I have/had an older black guy who said on his SA profile that he wanted someone between the ages of 25 and 35 but although I've told him I was 19 he still is pursuing me. He also wants someone with their own apartment---not me again! I went off the radar and didn't check my sugar email for around 2 and a half weeks I received like 3 emails from him bitching about how I didn't email him back! He and I haven't even met and at that rate we won't...so yeah.
I have revamped my profile, I've added more pictures (one of which has my favorite piece of art, that I created of course, in the background) I re-wrote my profile. I even looked at other SB profiles on the site to get a feel for what would be best to include.
There are many changes that I want to make in my life this year, and we all know that nothing in this world is free. In the eyes of many, I'm just a baby at the young age of 19. But I need to procure my own space, my own apartment because the living situation that my mother and I have is completely and utterly unbearable. I also need to "polish" myself up a bit. Meaning that times have fallen hard on my family, and I haven't got enough money to get a new weave, get a new make-up....shit I can barely go shopping! So yeah, I have a tuition to be paid and I need an SD to help. Wish me luck!
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