It's That Time of The Year....

Tuition. I just got the e-mail from my school saying that tuition $1,615.50 and it is due on December 30th. WHAT. THE. FUCK?! I truly and sincerely despise going to an HBCU for the simple fact that they wait until the last fucking minute in order to tell someone how much they owe for tuition for the next semester. I have been trolling around our fin aid site in order to get a general idea because this piece of shit school doesn't even have financial aid advisors...so once again. WHAT THE FUCK?!

As you can imagine, that put fire under my ass for my sugar search...ugh.
I have finals!!!!
But whatever, I'm gittin 'er dun one day at a time

If SDs are like buses then....

I must be at the wrong bus stop! Lol. I haven't updated in about a week because I haven't had any action at all in the sugar world...and also my RL has imploded. But I'm working on that. Lately I've been having dreams that have alluded to a change of some sort...last night I was dyeing my hair, the other night I was in an ascending elevator. Idk. But I do know that I am now on a serious sugar hunt, because next semester will begin in January and I realize that I will have no money for tuition or books if something doesn't change---and fast! So I need to get myself together and handle my business.

I also have been thinking about how hard it is to find the RIGHT SD. Because I'm not looking to be screwing some old hornball, instead I want to make someone feel appreciated, by listening to what they have to say, what they go through in their life and at their job, by giving them a massage when they look stressed, not just screwing them and having them leave the money on the hotel dresser. But with that being said, I also do not want somebody who will just believe that he has all the power because he has the black card and the fat ass bank account, I want someone who will listen to what I have to say, who will make me feel appreciated, who will also just HELP me. All I need is HELP. Not many people get to where they are going by doing things all by themselves, they need help and I'm no exception. Although my boyfriend makes me feel appreciated he can't help me financially in the way an SD can. Financial burdens are not something teenagers should have to worry about (that's just my belief) I feel like my main focus should be to receive a 4.0, not juggle a 3.2 with 2 jobs and still worry about how this next tuition payment will be made. I just need help, and to find the right man who will provide it for me. In exchange he will get everything he is lacking at home (excluding sex) I know that wanting that is idealism but I won't stop until I find that because I'm not lowering my morals for anyone (no matter the size of his bank account)

Another Update Lol

So last night I chatted with the married pot whom I met on SA. We were having great conversation...UNTIL he asked me "Spit or swallow" and "Shaved or trimmed"

EXCUSE ME?! Yeah...I was very taken aback and offended. The fuck? Am i a prostitute or an escort? Umm...no. And I told him very calmly that I felt uncomfortable and offended and wished him good luck. That's not my life smh. But whatever.

SDs are like buses, miss one, next 15 one's coming. ;)

I have a new pot on SA and he's handsome, and seemingly very forward and he lives in my area. I'm going to be speaking to him over the weekend so we'll see how it goes.

*Update*

So I have a new pot who contacted me on SA earlier this week. I have talked to him and he seems nice enough. Although, he is married which rather weird because I feel like if I begin an arrangement with him then I will be putting myself at risk for some horrible karma if or when I decide to get married. Have any of you other sugars encountered this problem?  This pot is also very aggravating, it seems as though our schedules will not mesh as he wants to meet during the middle of the day, I don't have a problem with that except for the fact the those mid-day meetings may interfere with my academics. He also is offering 1000-1100/month and the sound of that money is so appealing that I may have to take him up on the offer. He probably thinks I'm extremely annoying because I keep badgering him about a picture, and then when he sent one I couldn't see his face so I told him to send another. I just would like to go on a lunch date with him so that I can see if we have chemistry. And I think I'll nickname him Mr. Married, because that's what he is. lol
Also, are there any "mentors" in the sugar world? Like sugars who have been doing this for some time and would like to help out a beginning sugar?

Updates: My Two Sugar "Dates"

Happy Tuesday everyone! 

Today I met a fellow from AM at Starbucks today for coffee. In between his numerous business calls and our awkward silences he seemed like a nice enough gentleman. He is well-dressed and speaks eloquently. However, there is no chemistry. Like at all. He's someone's husband, someone's father...that's just a little too weird for me. He also mentioned that he had herpes. That's a huge deal-breaker. I have no STDs, never had one, and I would prefer to not be put at risk by dealing with a fellow who carries an incurable kind. No thanks. 

Also, last Saturday I went out with a fellow who I met on SA. He was nice, handsome, beautiful chocolate skin, and a delectable accent. He was funny, and we both have a very dry sense of humor so we got along quite fine. There was chemistry there and I didn't mind giving him a little "top" as my friends and I call it. ;) He was young which I don't mind, and he gave me a little sugar at the end of the night. Which is ALWAYS a plus. 

In my head I had an idea about what kind of arrangement I wanted, and meeting these two men is showing me that I do NOT want some old man with gross teeth (ew!) He wanted a kiss after he dropped me off at my campus, which I might add was a bit awkward (picture this: silver 2-door Benz on an HBCU campus with an old white man and a young black woman...hmmm) but I digress...I don't kiss and tell but I also do not kiss if there is no chemistry and no attraction. I do not now where your lips/ mouth have been and I wasn't looking to find out. 

*So sugars remember, you need to go out a bit with a few pots so that you can figure out for yourself what you are looking for. Because it's not worth it to believe that you want something particular and realize that that sugar isn't as sweet as you thought. Also, life is a constant battle of figuring out your limits of how far you can go with a particular situation all the while keeping your dignity and your morals intact* 

But anyways, I think I'll keep the young man around because I genuinely like him as a person. I have standards, yanno?

My Formal Sugarland Introduction

I am a newbie sugar, in college, of course. Watching the Tyra show brought me my first glimpse into the sugar world, the sugar lifestyle. At first I thought it was insanity that people were doing that, and on a closer introspection, I realized that I probably would see myself doing that one day. Because Louboutins, Chanel, Herve Leger, and Marc Jacobs seem so amazing to me.

Well the Huffington Post had an article about SA (Seeking Arrangement) and I thought...WOW! People actually do this? At the same time my home life and my financial situation became rather sucky so I began to suffer. Up until last week I was suffering and budgeting severely. Until I went to SA. I met one guy on there in my area (who I met up with tonight). I also have profiles on SDFM and AM. I am steadily meeting more pots and hopefully I'll have something steady.

I also have a boyfriend...which is awkward. He and I are kind of on a break and I just need the money in all honesty. So he doesn't know that I'm doing this but whatever. However, I like this freedom that I have...so we'll see where this goes.

Hello fellow sugars

Hi. I'm a newbie sugar baby, and I'm in college at the moment. I started my "hunt" so to speak earlier this week, I'm thinking like Tuesday night. And so far I have one pot who is in my area. However, since I'm new I'm super duper nervous. He wanted to meet up tonight and I'm not really into going out during the night because my area is dangerous. So he's being very persistent and I don't know how I feel about this, but whatever. I'll elaborate more on him and my life/my reasons for dipping into the sugar bowl in the next couple of posts.